Are you in a situation where you have something hanging over your head to do, but you can’t seem to muster your forces to do it? For instance, going to the gym regularly, or other kinds of regular self-care? Or perhaps other stuff that brings out the dreaded “should” word?

Maybe you are also giving yourself a very hard time about how you aren’t doing what you ought to, and there is some pretty negative self-talk going on about how you are “failing” or “childish”, or perhaps even “stupid”! I really want you to know something about what it takes to get things done, and how you can transform once difficult and overwhelming tasks into something do-able and even enjoyable.

The part of you that carries your intention into actual action is called your ”will”. In some things it is easy to engage your will and get stuff done, and thats because three things are potentially present for you: enthusiasm, rhythm, and a practice.


Your will is warmed into action by feelings of enthusiasm. Imagine how easy it is to do the stuff you really enjoy, and how hard it is to get stuff done when you absolutely don’t care at all!

Enthusiasm kindles a warming fire in your will that gets you going. The problem comes when you don’t like doing something; how to warm your will then? Check out the next part on rhythm:


I can imagine you are already practiced at, say, doing the laundry; it is a part of your daily or weekly rhythm and is therefore built into your will. Rhythm creates capacity in your will. This is why serious artists practice every day and not every now and then, to build some serious skill and crank out those art pieces.

Rhythm is an essential ingredient in creating homeopathic medicine. Potentizing – imbuing the medicine with its particular energetic forces of healing – is created through rhythmical movements done over and over again. This is an analog for the potentizing ability of applying rhythm in your own life. Rhythmical action, however small and seemingly insignificant, has great potency and healing for your will, like a homeopathic dose of medicine that strengthens, supports, and warms.

If you can, put your activity at the same time each day or week, or as close to it as you can. This will create the rhythmic repetition that builds your will. Rhythm replaces the strength you would otherwise have to draw upon which can be exhausting and ultimately unsustainable.


If you have been resisting doing something – perhaps it seems too hard or overwhelming – take a look at what you could do to make room for it in your schedule, whether or not you actually end up doing it. At the very least, creating space for it in your life is a step you can do as long as you resist feelings of guilt and shame and negative self-talk if you can’t muster your will forces to actually do the thing. Instead, look at this small step of creating space as a part of the practice, the daily or weekly practice, of building the will capacity, step by step, towards the actual activity itself.

Will power is a capacity, a skill; it comes about through patient practice on a regular basis. Building the skill of getting things done happens bit by chewable bit, step by step. It is not an instant “I should be able to do this” for everyone. Negative self-talk, blaming or shaming yourself when you “fail” is a sure-fire way to undermine your will. Instead, say to yourself “I wish to do better”. There is no blame in that, and hopefully it’s true!

I hope you can see how these three elements work together, ultimately resulting in a stronger, healthier will power and capacity!

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